44. The Principles of Helping Others With a Loving Heart
1. You must distinguish different kinds of people according to God’s word. For those who truly believe in God and accept the truth, you must help them with a loving and honest heart;
2. Treat others according to the principles of the truth, bring others before God for the sake of practicing the truth and fulfilling your duty, and have no individual intentions;
3. Your help for others should make them feel that they need it, that it is appropriate and they feel willing to accept it. Your help for others should not contain your own intentions, and it should not be done to make a bargain or to collect something from others in return;
4. Helping others with a loving heart includes being pruned and dealt with, as well as criticism and reproach, so as to enable people to understand the truth, to truly know themselves and enter into reality.
Relevant Words of God:
What does God’s word require as the principle for treating others? Love what God loves, hate what God hates. That is, the people loved by God who truly pursue the truth and who carry out God’s will, are the people you should love. Those who don’t carry out God’s will, hate God, disobey God, and are despised by God, are people we should despise and reject. That’s what God’s word requires.
from “Knowing Yourself Requires Knowing Your Deep-rooted Thoughts and Views” in Records of Christ’s Talks
Anyone who does not recognize God is an enemy; that is, anyone within or without this stream who does not recognize God incarnate is an antichrist! Who is Satan, who are demons, and who are God’s enemies if not resisters who do not believe in God? Are they not those people who are disobedient to God? Are they not those people who verbally claim to believe yet lack truth? Are they not those people who only pursue the obtaining of blessings yet cannot bear witness for God? You can still hobnob with those demons today and stress conscience and love with these demons; is this not considered extending good intentions to Satan? Is it not considered associating with demons? If people are still unable to distinguish between good and evil today, and still blindly stress love and pity without in any way hoping to seek God’s will, and cannot in any way have God’s heart as their own, their endings will be all the more wretched. Anyone who does not believe in the God in the flesh is an enemy of God. If you can stress conscience and love to an enemy, do you not lack a sense of righteousness? If you are compatible with those which I detest and disagree with, and still stress love or personal feelings with them, are you not then disobedient? Are you not intentionally resisting God? Does a person like this possess truth? If people stress conscience to enemies, stress love to demons and stress pity to Satan, are they not intentionally interrupting God’s work? Those people who believe only in Jesus and do not believe in God incarnate during the last days and those who verbally claim to believe in God incarnate but do evil are all antichrists, let alone those people who do not believe in God. These people will all be destroyed.
from “God and Man Will Enter Into Rest Together” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
This “irrational” person God speaks of looks like they don’t have proper relationships with others, and they don’t have outward love or superficial practices, but when they are communicating spiritual things they can open their heart and selflessly provide others with the illumination and enlightenment they have acquired from their actual experience before God. This is how they express their love for God and satisfy God’s will. …
… These relationships aren’t established on the flesh, but on the foundation of God’s love. There are almost no interactions based on the flesh, but in the spirit there is fellowship as well as love, comfort, and provision for one another. This is all done on the foundation of a heart that satisfies God. These relationships aren’t maintained by relying on a human philosophy of life, but they are formed very naturally through the burden for God. They don’t require human effort—they are practiced through the principles of the word of God.
from “Establishing a Proper Relationship With God Is Very Important” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
Suppose someone hands over some work to you, work that doesn’t need anyone to manage you. You just complete this work in accordance with God’s word and through prayer and, during this work, you are capable of not being arrogant and conceited, not doing anything that defies God, not restraining anyone else and are able to help others with compassion. You can patiently pass on your experience in fellowship to others so that everybody can obtain provision, obtain the benefit, and can enter onto the right track of believing in God. Furthermore, during this work you do not seek your own status or interests, not take anything for yourself that you did not earn, not speak up for yourself, and no matter how anyone treats you, you treat them all properly. You would then be someone with a relatively good stature.
from “Only by Seeking the Truth Can You Obtain Changes in Your Disposition” in Records of Christ’s Talks
When you eat and drink God’s words, link them more to reality, and when you communicate, speak more about realistic things and do not be condescending—God objects to that … When you are working, speak more of realistic paths and don’t get too lofty or it will be beyond people’s reach. Less enjoyment, more contribution—show your selfless spirit of dedication … Offer more and talk more about life, keeping a spirit of helping others.
from “Focus More on Reality” in The Word Appears in the Flesh
If the brothers and sisters are to be able to confide in each other, help each other out, and provide for one another when they are together, then each person must speak of their own true experiences. If you don’t talk of your own true experiences, and only speak high-sounding words, and words that are doctrinal and superficial, then you are not honest, and you are incapable of being honest. … If people have no verbal or spiritual communication, there is no possibility of intimacy between them, and they can’t provide to each other or help one another. Do you have such a feeling? If your friend says everything to you, saying all of what they’re thinking in their heart, and what suffering or happiness they have in their heart, then do you not feel particularly intimate with them? That they are willing to tell these things to you is because you have also spoken of the words in your heart to them—you are especially close, and it is because of this that you are able to get along with them and help each other out.
from “To Be Honest, You Should Lay Yourself Open to Others” in Records of Christ’s Talks
You have some understanding about fulfilling your duties and being loyal to God, and you also understand the truths, but when will you be completely devoted to God? When will you fulfill your duties in name and in deed? This will require some time. During this process, you might suffer many hardships; people will deal with you, people will prune you, people will regulate you, compel you and force you. Everyone’s eyes will be fixed on you, and ultimately, you will realize: It’s my problem. Is it acceptable to fulfill my duties without devotion? I can’t be careless and perfunctory. The Holy Spirit enlightens you from within and will reproach you when you make a mistake. During this process, you will understand some things about yourself and will know that you are too impure, you have too many personal intentions and too many desires in fulfilling your duties. After you know this, you can gradually get on the right track and you will be able to change your actions.
from “What You Should Know About Transforming Your Disposition” in Records of Christ’s Talks
The Man’s Fellowship:
In loving each other we must also master principles. When other people need help and fellowship, we must help them according to their stature, and according to their states. We must consider what way is appropriate and effective, and what way of helping people is appropriate so that they can accept it. Then we can provide our help in that way. If the other person has done something wrong, and he can’t accept any of your fellowship about it, then you should stop your fellowship. Pray for the person. If he has spoken inappropriately, you can correct him. But don’t tell him that he has done wrong, you need to speak with wisdom. Overall, whether or not the other party can accept it is the basis for everything. If there is a way that he can accept, and a way that a good outcome will be achieved, do it that way. If you are not able to help, and cannot achieve a good outcome, and there is no benefit, don’t continue without a plan. Most important is to not ruin the relationship. If this relationship falls apart, and both of you flare up easily, then it becomes very difficult to do this work. First, protect the relationship in this way. Then, pray to God, and fellowship the truth to help the other person accept a little bit more, and then make improvements one step at a time.
from “The Answers to Questions” in Sermons and Fellowship on Entry Into Life (I)
Why do leaders have to meet periodically to receive pruning and dealing? Because this is most helpful and beneficial.
from “One Must Have Principles in Serving God” in Collection of Sermons—Supply for Life
For example, you are a leader, and you should be responsible for the brothers and sisters. Suppose there is a brother or sister who does not pursue the truth, and is not going the right way. What should you do? You must help this person. This help includes pruning them and dealing with them. It includes censure and criticism. This is the way to help. All of this is love. Is it necessary to coax them along or use a consulting tone? Not necessarily. If there is a need for pruning and dealing with them, do it. Expose what should be exposed. This is because you are a leader and a worker. If you don’t help, who will? This is the duty that you should fulfill.
from “How One Must Experience God’s Work in Order to Achieve Salvation and Be Perfected” in Sermons and Fellowship on Entry Into Life (VI)