Why I Didn’t Dare to Point Out Other People’s Problems
By Xu Hui, China Previously, when interacting with my neighbors, I noticed that one of them spoke very directly. Whenever she spotted someone doing s…
Pointing Out Problems Is Not the Same as Calling Out Shortcomings
By Florence, Italy My mother told me since I was a child that “If you strike others, don’t strike them in the face; if you call others out, don’t cal…
It Isn’t Difficult to Speak Directly Anymore
By Chen Ming, China From a young age, my parents taught me that in my relationships with others, I should choose my words according to the situation, …
Speaking Up About the Faults of Good Friends Makes for a Long and Good Friendship
By Ziyan, China In 2023, I was partnered with Ye Xun to do text-based duties. Ye Xun’s work capability is better than mine, and she is also more effic…
What Lies Behind Not Willing to Tell the Truth
By Ye Qiu, China In early September 2022, I was a watering team leader in the church. At that time, two newcomers, Sister Qiu Zhen and Sister Yang Yun…
The Misgivings That Stopped Me From Exposing the Problems of Others
By Deve, The Philippines In early July 2023, I was elected as a district leader, and made primarily responsible for the gospel work. I know that as a …
Bitter Lessons Learned From Being a People Pleaser
By Fanyi, China In February 2021, both Wang Hua and I were elected as church leaders. Since Wang Hua had previous experience as a leader and was also …
Does Getting Along Mean Harmonious Cooperation?
By Cecily, Japan At the beginning of 2022, I was responsible for the work of several churches. One day, a few of us were discussing work together when…
Was I Really a Good Leader?
By Xiaoyue, China In May 2020, I was chosen as a church leader. A month later, two partnered sisters were dismissed. I saw in the evaluations written …
Does Kindness Represent Good Humanity?
By Xiaojin, China In August 2023, I was responsible for text-based work in the church. Usually, whenever brothers and sisters faced difficulties in th…
Is It a Wise Move to Keep Silent on Others’ Faults?
By Nanyi, China In April 2023, I unintentionally saw the leader’s evaluation of me, saying that I was a people pleaser, and that I lacked a sense of j…
Is Being Loyal to Others Being a Good Person?
By Yu Ming, China In 2012, when I was a church leader, Zheng Xin drew in and misled some brothers and sisters so that he could contend for the leaders…
Why Couldn’t I Practice the Truth?
By Ye Di, China When I was a leader, some brothers and sisters reported that Yang Li, the leader of a church that I was responsible for, wasn’t doing …
Does Being Understanding Mean Having Good Humanity?
By Wang Yin, China In 2016, Sister Ding Rui and I were partnered to oversee several churches’ work. Not long after that, an upper leader had Ding Rui …
Is Being Amiable a Principle of Conduct?
By Zi Yi, China I remember when I was in first grade, our homeroom teacher was amiable and approachable and always had a kind look on her face. She ne…
My Concerns About Dismissing False Leaders
By Jing Wei, China In September 2020, I was a preacher in the church, responsible for the work of four churches. The leader of one of these churches,…
The Hidden Motivation Behind “Not Calling Out People’s Shortcomings”
By Jiayu, China Sister Li Le was a preacher, and she also checked up on our church’s work. We normally got along very well, and whenever I had a bad …
Why I Fear Exposing Others’ Problems
By Ruo Tong, Taiwan When I was at school, I noticed that some of my classmates were pretty outspoken. When they saw others were wrong, they’d just co…
